When you think of the perfect partner….there’s a list right? Don’t lie, there has to be. We all have an idea of the person we would like to marry one day.
My list, I like my list. But, I’ve been told it’s too much. That I have to lower my standards -_- I just recently watched a video on YouTube about Virgo’s and their list. The woman was a card reader, lol. Psychic? I dunno…astrology person. She said that Virgos tend to look for their list first, then decide whether or not to fall in love. I had to ponder on that for a little while.
You see, every Sunday morning I wake up and make my cup of coffee. I’m a coffee addict, nothing works till after coffee. Anyways, my coffee and I get back in bed, lol. And then I scroll over to my email and look at my daily horoscope. From there I will do a quick scroll through Instagram and Facebook. And then I will go on YouTube and watch my weekly horoscope. If it’s the end of the month I will watch my monthly ones. I have a few readers that I like so I spend a good hour watching all of them.
Sometimes it’s on the money. Sometimes it’s not. if you know anything about astrology, it varies with every person. So much comes into play with zodiac signs.
Example: My very good friend is a Virgo. My birthday is a couple of weeks apart from him. We are very similar in some ways but soooo different in other ways. So remember all readings are pretty general and not tailored to you specifically unless you request for one. Name, birthplace, time of birth etc…all that matters. I’ve learned that there is a difference with evolved signs and non-evolved ones. It’s super interesting and makes a lot of sense. Isn’t it crazy how you somewhat know a complete stranger just by what zodiac sign they are??? Fascinating !
Back to this lady. She really got in my head. I think about my past relationships and realized what she said was true. I will completely size someone up before I decide whether I’m interested or not.
So with my list…lets say I meet someone and we mesh well. We laugh, we talk about interesting things but not digging in too deep. There’s a connection physically and we seem to get along. But on the second date, I start to dive in a little deeper. I kinda break out my list. And from there it’s like…check, check, check. It may take a little time to figure out if this person meets my standards. I find myself on guard until I make my final decision to see if this is even worth it. Card lady is right. I don’t open up on a lighter, good time side. I start out as a detective. Therefore I don’t really let myself get to know the person without all the strings. It’s hard because I’m more of a quality not quantity kind of person. I don’t like to waste my time. Honestly I don’t think I’m ever really gonna stray much from my list. But, I did hear her though. I need to go into things with a light-hearted approach. Not looking at the big picture right off the bat. I’ve learned that I tend to see the good things because that’s what I want. And I miss some of the obvious things. Things that were red flags because I was just checking the things off my list. Like, she has this, that and this. A lot of people don’t have these qualities, its hard to find. Then lone behold…HELLO there were other things that I missed because I was so excited about the good. For that reason I was blinded to the not so good. They may have all these things but lack in other areas that might just be even more important in the end. Do I even make sense right now? LOL. Blogging, speak your mind even though you probably make no sense 😁
The point is, I guess I shouldn’t be so intent on the list. There are some things no matter what at my age you must have. Stable job, a car..the basics. I’m 33…and depending on your age, it’s a given. You SHOULD know where you SHOULD be at, give or take a few things.
I do know what I want, yes. But at the same time I need to see the person for who they are first and foremost.
Does she make me smile? Laugh? Does she see me, just me? Can we debate about the world for hours at a time? Can we lay in silence and be OK with it? Her touch, does it feel sensational to my skin? Her arms, do they make me feel safe? So you see, passion first. I have to be open enough to let my guard down and see if the passion is really there. All the credentials come after. Hey stability is very important to me. But let me see if this person is someone capable of touching my soul first. Because you can build afterwards. You can dream the dream and build the foundation with the right person. And the right person is the person who connects with your soul.
So card lady, thank you, lol. I get it. I get what you were trying to tell me. I’m NOT lowering my standards by any means. I’m just approaching relationships a little differently. I know I have to let the wall down somewhat and just try to enjoy it. Just enjoy the moment. Can’t always be so serious you know?
Connection first 🙂 The list after 🙂 I’m rambling I know. This was something I just needed to get out. An ah ha moment 🙂