“Modern” or whatever dating, I refuse it.


I’m a fan of The Thought Catalog. I love the variety of writers on there. They range from teens to 36 and older. You get prospectives from all ages and their experiences. Want to find someone who shares your same anxiety or depression, they’re on there. Health, lifestyle…heck even finances. Search and you will find.

Today, I read a few articles on modern-day dating. I’m in awe of some of the stories. Do people really meet on Tinder and hook up the same night? I mean ladies who date men, are you not scared that’s he’s a psychopath? Like, how do you know these random strangers are clean?! #virgoproblems 😂😂😂

And then you have the girls who talk about modern-day dating bullshit. Waits 3 days to text back. Don’t be too available. Too clingy. Are we dating or just having sex. He hasn’t called me in a week but he’s on Instagram liking photos. We went away together and I haven’t heard from him since. Why would he go to all that trouble to woo me if he didn’t like me? He liked a photo of mine from months ago. He has to be into me.

OMFG 🤦🤦🤦

I’ve done online dating but it’s been a long while. I decided to go on and check out the dating pool. It’s changed. Maybe because it’s so saturated now. I deleted my profile within a week. I get it when people say modern-day dating sucks. It is a lot of work and so much wasted time. I don’t know how it’s possible to find a true connection on dating apps now. I mean, if I spent hours a day filtering and causally chatting then just maybe…MAYBE I might find one person worth having a conversation with outside of the app. BUT my time is so valuable to me. Or maybe I’m not really serious about finding someone…? 🧐

It seems like a whole lot of nonsense. I don’t think I have the patience for modern-day dating. To me, it should be simple.

1) I like your face.

2) Are you single?

3) What is your zodiac sign?

4) Can I have your number?

5) I will text you that same day and ask you out for coffee.

6) I will show up and pay for your drink.

7) We will sit across from each other.

8) We will have conversations about anything and everything.

9) I’m awkward and will let you end the date.

10) As I’m driving home I will decide right there and then if I’m interested.

11) I am interested and I will text you that night to let you know that I am.

12) Then we date. We get to know each other. Everything is on the table. What you want, what I want. No gray areas.

13) If we decide it’s not working then we say goodbye. If it is working, then we work more towards each other.

Ok…not so hard right? Yeah. That’s my kind of dating. Call me ancient but I’m just not into the “modern” or whatever dating, I refuse it. Don’t wanna be your snap friend. Don’t expect me to like all your photos. I’ll be frank, as an introvert I don’t want to share my love in squares for strangers to see. If I hold one thing sacred, that would be my feelings for someone I care for. Granted I blog and spill my heart out. But you don’t know if I’m writing from my own experiences or someone else’s. You can assume…but no one will ever know for sure. Just me 😁

Why do people make things so complicated? It’s not like I’m asking you to marry me on the first date hahahahaaa

2 comments on ““Modern” or whatever dating, I refuse it.”

  1. Modern dating is so stressful. I have been debating whether I want to go back onto it, but I’m reminded of how much wasted time I spent. I hate all the rules..like wait this many days and don’t do this before you do that…it just ruins romance to me. I just wish more people could be ‘normal’ and just enjoy dating without over worrying about social-media. Loved reading this! 🙂

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