Category: Self Development

Posts on being a better person.

Practice “Being” and not always “Doing”

I’m always doing. Planning, overthinking. What are the next steps? What is the next move? The only time my mind and body really idles is when I’m watching a movie.

“Doing” is innately who I am. I don’t need to be taught or told. I just do.

I even worry about being worried too much 🤦 More fixated on tomorrow than the moment.

I realize this, therefore, living in the moment is a behavior I have to work on. I literally have to “practice being.” For short periods I’m in the flow of just being. Then it turns back into my natural state of “doing.”

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Geez, 2018 is almost over

We’re already in October. Where did 2018 go?! I’m already getting emails about filing your taxes. Open enrollment is the around the corner.

Hmmm…Venus in retrograde… I feel a massive push to reassess my finances.

  • I wanna make sure I stay completely debt free for the rest of the year (no credit card debt, loans of any kind).
  • Eliminate any unnecessary spending (do you really need cable, Netflix and Hulu?).
  • Check to make sure I’m getting the best pricing for current plans and policies I have now (car insurance, renters insurance, cell phone plan etc.)

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Don’t wait too long

Don’t wait too long to let go and move on.

Yes, you should feel the feelings. Cry. Be angry. Maybe even feel a little sorry for yourself. But you must not, I repeat you must not wait too long.

You can replay things all you want in your mind. Should have, could have..what if. The results are still the same.

In relationships, remember…people only do what you allow. That’s it! You stayed too long in a horrible relationship, job…well that was a choice. Your choice. No one needs to constantly hear the reasons/excuses of why. Just acknowledge that you weren’t happy. You weren’t getting what you needed. Find the growing lesson from it and move on.

Easier said than done?

I get we’re built differently. I can detach pretty quickly emotionally. Although my mind is another story. It’s naturally caffeinated 24/7. I think when your heart doesn’t ache anymore, eventually, your mind will follow. And if you’re not that sensitive, to begin with, it helps 😆

The fact still remains…you are in control of your own life.

I just got out of something and to my surprise, I actually learned a valuable lesson. After the dust has settled obviously 😊 We (I) hold on to our thoughts and emotions so tight. Overthink to the point of exhaustion. Like…why the fuck would you want someone who doesn’t see your worth? Love shouldn’t have to be earned or proven. At least not the kind of love I want. If a person wants to see you, be close to you, they will. If they think of you first thing in the morning, they will reach out. Sweet gestures aren’t done because it’s expected, you just do them because you care for that person. And if you find yourself asking for more attention constantly, there is a problem. He knows you love Valentines Day. He’s not into it but he knows you are. He loves you, therefore, you will see a pretty display of his affection the day of.

My lesson… is to not hold on so tight to those who do not truly value me. Don’t get it twisted though. Some people only value you because you serve them a purpose. Well…we all have to serve some sort of purpose to be valuable whether it be a person or entity. But recognize when it’s one-sided. If it is, you need to let the fuck go and move on. 20 years at a job where you’ve performed well and all of a sudden they want to be assholes for one call in…end it. 15 years in a relationship where you’ve given so much of yourself and he makes you feel not beautiful enough…end it. 10 years of friendship where you’re always there and they struggle to find time for you…end it. I’m well aware that it isn’t easy to let go of things you value, people whom you’ve loved. Things change, people change and that’s okay because they are supposed to. If it no longer serves a positive purpose in your life, you should let go.

(This is total venus in retrograde by the way)

People who want to be there will always be there. If they are meant to stay, they will stay. And if you want to keep someone in your life, you will do what’s needed. All relationships have give and take. Sometimes you will give more. And at other times they will. But the scales (Libra season currently of course) balance more times than not. I’ve always known this but I haven’t always accepted it (in reference to people who want to be there will always be). I do now. I wonder if it’s because I’m getting older 🤔 I don’t know when God is going to say your time is up here. I hope to live a long and happy life. I am already halfway to the end. I choose RIGHT NOW to no longer waste any extra time on anyone or anything that is not vibing with me. I will not settle for less than I deserve. I will not hold on longer than I should.

(Never chase anyone. Your meant to be is a piece to your puzzle. It will fit perfectly along with all the other pieces that form your heart)

Don’t wallow in your failures and losses more than you should. We have our off days. And it’s healthy to cry and let shit out. It would just really suck if your life is more sad than happy.

So don’t wait too long. Time stops for no one.