Why do people let so many opportunities pass them by? People sit and soak in misery. Complaining about all the things they don’t have. Wishing for things to be different.

Maybe if I were pushed more as a child to do better in school I’d be making more money. I wish my teachers were better teachers that made me want to excel. If I had money I can help more. If my job cared more about their employees I’d make more.

Well, how many of you think this way? All the if’s and but’s. Our society is filled with blame and people love to point fingers. We are extremely intelligent life beings but at the same time, we just don’t have a clue.

OK, as children, we look to our parents and the world in general to teach us life skills. Sometimes, we’re cut short.  People fail us in our lives. Our expectations aren’t met with the highest efforts possible. And now, you’re grown, but not fully. You may have aged, you may be on your own, maybe even with a family of your own.  But,  MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, you are still young and naive. Your past may be your past, but it still plays a role in your present.

Are you one of those people? Making excuses and offering reasons why you aren’t as accomplished? Why you lack affection with your children? Or even why you think you’re better than others. We come from all walks of life. Our past does help mold us into who we become as adults. But does it completely? Does your past define entirely who you are? I think it’s a part of it, but I don’t believe it is ALL of you.

So…what if you are that person who blames your past for your present? Making excuses after excuses. Look in the mirror and be honest with yourself.  If you’ve come to the conclusion you are, then how are you going to change it?

Hey, I’m guilty of this as well. I am working everyday towards changing things that I don’t want to be. There are some things that are harder to overcome than others. The first step is to realize it and accept it.  From there, analyze it, break into the core and dissect the heck out of it. Then, ask all the questions. Why did this happen to me, why did it happen this way? What could I or they have done different. Did you really have control of the things that happened? Are these things still really controlling you? The way you think, the way you behave? And even the bigger question, do you still want this to have control over you?

Holding on to the bitter past can do a remarkable amount of damage to the spirit. Not to mention your heart and soul. Even your mind can become unconsciously bias and just plain stupid due to the events that life has unwrapped for you.

You eventually come to a place where enough is enough.  Are you ready to change your life? Change your ways? Are you ready to let go and be who you want and desire to be?  We cannot control everything, but we can try our hardiest to control who we are.

It’s up to you my friends, and ALL on you. No more excuses.