Why do you think people change? Do people really change? Or maybe you really didn’t know them?
So many people come in and out of our lives. Ever wonder why fate brought them to us? Some are lessons, some even save us. Fascinating isn’t it? How the universe works, how life can be so unpredictable. Some of us know exactly what we want at age 16, some of us still don’t know at 36.
Our lives are all different…
Our up bringing and everything we go through isn’t exactly like anyone else. We didn’t get to choose the life we were born into. We just get what we get. That isn’t very fair though. I think about all the children that are neglected and abused everyday. It’s not fair. Some are lucky enough to survive and create a better life for themselves. Some die, some grow up only to continue living an abusive life. The cycle is even repeated.
Life can be controlled and so not at the same time. I at 31 can control a large amount of my life as well as how I handle the uncontrollable outcomes. My company shuts down, I can’t control that. I can only do what’s needed to keep my job while it still exists. My son makes mistakes, I can only guide him to make the right decisions. My significant other screws me, all I can do is move on. A lot of you know what I’m talking about. This is life right?
I am lucky enough to be borne from a mother who does love me. She wasn’t prefect but she did try her best. She put me first, before my father or any man that came after that. That’s how it should be, you’re children come first. I mean why have kids if your wants come first? There must be a balance, yes I know. unfortunately a lot of people don’t know what that balance is. I just watched this movie about a mother and daughter. It’s not Oscar material but I really liked it. A story about a mom who put her heart before her daughters and didn’t even know it. Happy ending? Maybe, but real life isn’t always a happy ending.
People I can’t stand…
I can’t stand the fake and dishonest ones. I pity them. They were lessons, so glad to see them go. Ex’s, they too are lessons. After each relationship I learn more about myself, good and bad. My “flaws” or “issues” can be worked on. It may never completely change, but I can get better. Why? because I want to .
The heart breaks but heals in time. It’s just the in between time that sucks right? We get two great things out of breakups: LOVE – to love and be loved. Even for a short time. KNOWLEDGE – we know now what we want and don’t want in the next person. Don’t you just love the lessons of life?
There’s always a new beginning to every ending…
To the children in the world, I’m sorry you couldn’t choose the life you were born into. I only wish you have the chance and strength to create a better world for yourself. If you’re a parent, we’re suppose to give our children happy memories. They shouldn’t have bad ones. An ex told me that 🙂 Our children are the most innocent , precious creation in the world. Parents, don’t ruin them please.
As for me, us adults, it can be difficult, this life, this world. Have faith in yourself, be strong, we’ll get through whatever is thrown at us. Together, in spirit, you’re never alone, even when you’re lying on the cold, hard bathroom floor. It’s a true dark moment but we’re never really alone. We’ve all somewhere, been there. If we can just get past that moment, we’ll be OK.
So, fate brings us these people. Fate favors I suppose…? Wish I had the answers to why we must feel pain. I’m sorry that it’s a part of life. But, they are all lessons, all of them. Control what you can, let go of what you can’t.
Take care, have a great week…weekend 🙂