Analysis paralysis or paralysis by analysis is an anti-pattern, the state of over-analyzing (or over-thinking) a situation so that a decision or action is never taken, in effect paralyzing the outcome. That’s me 😁 And I’m sure that’s many of you as well. Talk about driving ourselves insane.                             Guess what though? After all the over thinking, shit is what it is. Lets just accept things for what they are. I believe in fate, in destiny, in meant to be’s. I really do. I also know the universe has a purpose for everything. We can fight the fight, give the best of us in hopes that things go our way. I’m grateful for the times it does…and bitter when it doesn’t. So what if I’m bitter? It’s called having “feelings.” Thinking positive ALL the time doesn’t help much when your heart is broken,  when your business shuts down after a year….fast forward >>> or if Donald Trump becomes president!!! 😂🔫 It’s not gonna happen…but if it did, I’m entitled to be mad af!

My point is…sometimes things just really suck. I know you hate it, me too. I know you over think it. I know you play things over and over in your mind. I know you dream of what could be. I know what it’s like to really believe. To really feel it. Makes you smile, yes? In that moment, in that perfect thought, nothing and no one else is present right? You’re just lost in that feeling, in that fantasy. I don’t blame you, it feels good.

Then poof. Reality strikes. Bitter. Again. SMH.

Let me ask you something. Did you make a real effort? Did you give it your best? Answer with all honestly. If your answer is yes, than my friend there is nothing else you could have done. The universe has decided your fate. You were meant to be where you are now. And what is most important? The NOW is. The PRESENT. The past has come and gone.

“PAST, thank you for all the blessings and lessons. For helping me grow into a better person. Hello FUTURE. I welcome you with open arms. I will plan for you, but I will not limit myself to you. The NOW, the PRESENT…I embrace you. I am thankful for you. I will not take you for granted.”

Now you say it out loud. Repeat. Don’t underestimate the power of auto suggestion (Faith is a state of mind which may be induced by auto suggestion) . It really works. I have proof 🙂 Thank you to all the self-development gurus and books out there.

Analysis paralysis or paralysis by analysis is an anti-pattern, the state of over-analyzing (or over-thinking) a situation so that a decision or action is never taken, in effect paralyzing the outcome. 

It’s not such a bad thing. It forces us to weigh out all of the options. All the what if’s and possibilities. It provides some answers to our why’s. It even helps us realize our self-worth. It teaches us to let go and have faith but also to be brave and go after what we want. So I don’t mind that I get lost in my thoughts. Well… sometimes I do mind, lol. See… I can’t even decide how I feel about it 😂

So… as you’re comfortably laying down under the covers nice and warm (as I)  …you should be sleeping but your dumbass is wide awake over thinking, lol. Dwelling on all the things that went wrong. Try thinking of all the things you are thankful for. Because there is a lot to be thankful for. It’s all in how you see it. The mind does wonders for our happiness. Remember when I asked if you made a real effort? You said yes right? Let go and love yourself enough to start healing. Let the past go. It no longer serves any purpose. Thank it and embrace the NOW and everyone in it.

For those of you who answered NO to my question…SMH. I feel bad for you. You’re always gonna have that cloud lingering over you. Some nights it will keep you up. Some days it will eat at you. But time will make it less unbearable. Regret won’t weigh so heavily on your shoulders through the passing years. BUT, I can guarantee it will never completely go away. The WHAT IF because I didn’t do enough. Pride, ego and fear will keep you chained to a unfullfilling life. I could never allow myself to live that way. Why so many do I don’t freaken know. It’s sad to waste the days away. I mean when we’re dead we’re dead. That’s it. The older you get the faster the years go by. I feel it now 😰 I’m happy to be alive still though! Too many good people die too young.

I encourage you to live in the moment. To follow your heart, your dreams. Take chances and be brave. Never settle for less than you deserve. Remember that rejection and failure only means you need to take an alternative route. Never give up on what your soul truly desires. I can’t stress this enough, life is so freaken short. Don’t get stuck living in the past or the future. Just live NOW. Love NOW. Laugh NOW. Do what you want NOW.

Anyways, this post was inspired by someone and you know who you are. A good chunk of this is for you. I know you’re going through it right now…not crazy but I know there’s some pain tugging at your big heart. I guess in some ways this post was for myself as well. There’s some things tugging at my little heart, lol. We’ll get through it. For everyone else…ask yourself the important questions. Answer honestly and the rest is up to you.

Sending all of you lost of love and laghter XOXO