Perspective is…everything. But you know, sometimes shit is just messed up. We’d all love to be able to turn negatives into positives. The truth is, lemons don’t always turn into lemonade.

I make decisions under false pretense and obligation a whole lot.

In relationships, “hope” and “potential” can be dangerous. The Soul, the Brain, the Heart all play a role in our decision-making. They’ve all undergone conditioning, judgement, punches and kicks. Therefore, decision-making isn’t always free of external influences.

You thought you made the right decision. It came from a place of love, hope…a potential to heal. Then it blows up in your face.

Are you sure guilt didn’t have anything to do with it? Is doing the “right thing” truly the right thing? Outsiders may think so. It may be the right thing for them, but is it for you?

Relationship dynamics can be very tricky. It’s family. Till death due us part. Try, try and try. Keep trying to squeeze the juice from those lemons. You’ve been able to make some superb lemonade in the past. Why ever give up?

Well…

People plot, manipulate. They play martyrs because most people in their life have rewarded them for it.

The empaths, you know you’re such a sucker. Having a big heart is a great thing. But there lies most of your pain. The need to help and serve becomes crippling. When will you learn to draw boundaries? You allow everyone to pick the best lemons off your tree, all while you’re left with a bitter cup of lemonade. You fool yourself into…hey…at least I have something. It’s better than nothing. WRONG. You deserve what you give to the fullest extent in return. You are not less worthy, and your self-sacrificing doesn’t make you Mother Teresa. Furthermore, you see, when you’re on the right path whether it be in relationships or your life’s work, you will feel uplifted, not drained.

Take a close look at where you are in life. How do you feel? Perspective is everything, but your feelings matter also. I am reminded of something Tony Robbins said. He isn’t a believer in positive affirmations. You can chant there are no more weeds, no more weeds till you’re blue in the face, but it doesn’t work. You actually have to tend to the weeds. You have to do the work. MASSIVE ACTION.

So stop ignoring what you’re truly feeling deep down inside. Stop helping everyone else feel comfortable in their lives at the expense of yours. Get out that do not enter tape and block off your tree. Allow your lemons to fully ripen. And please, make yourself a fridge full of lemonade before letting others take from your tree first. Being giving is admirable. We need more givers. But that doesn’t mean your needs and happiness has to come last.

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