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9 Things You Need To Know Before Dating An Outgoing Introvert

Described perfectly. I think I’m going to keep this article handy for potential dates ūüôČ

By Victoria Joslin,


‚ÄúI don‚Äôt know how to be anything other than intense. I don‚Äôt know how to experience without feeling too much and thinking too much. I am always searching, always questioning, and always trying to find the meaning in everything. I am passionate and I am deep, and sometimes I am misunderstood, but I am finally okay with that.‚ÄĚ

So, the world has introverts and the world has extroverts, and then there’s us. Falling somewhere in between the lines.

We find people intriguing, but insanely exhausting.

We like adventures, but love peace and quiet.

We want to go out, but need to mentally prepare ourselves.

We are terrible at texting back, but can sit and listen to someone speak for hours.

We are outgoing introverts.

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Truly Happy

Are you truly happy? How many people do you know who are truly happy? Take a minute to think about that….

I personally couldn’t think of anyone. I mean, they have their moments, but that’s the problem. It’s only for a moment. Then comes all the drama, then…happy again! lol

I mean, it’s typical of course. We can’t be happy all the time. There are things out of your control.

What I mean by truly happy is…you wouldn’t trade your life for anything in the world. There is no desire lacking, there is no “I wish.” Your desires are met. Your wishes have come true. The core things you feel are important are things you already possess.

I’m going ¬†to pause for a minute to think, you do the same. Think about your life and the lives of the people around you.

Did you smile? Or did you all the sudden become frustrated?

If you smiled, then you’re definetly in a good place. What you have, internal and external is warmth. You smile because there is love, there is trust, you are safe, you feel secure. That’s a wonderful feeling isn’t it?! Yes, you have your rough days, who doesn’t? Hey, it’s a part of life. Ups and downs are inevitable. The important thing to remember is that it is a moment in time, it will pass. There are just too many good things that make you smile. There is just too much good energy. When you’re pulled down, you won’t stay down for long. You are truly happy my friend. Hold on to it. Nourish it, cherish it. Be thankful for it.

For the frustrusted ones, did my rant on being truly happy help change you’re thinking a little? If it did help, great. You just needed to see things in a different light. Sometimes we need reminding.

Looking into things a little deeper…humans have a very powerful gift. And that is, we are able to plan, think ahead and can reason. Our brains are incredible in so many ways, but it also gives us lots of troubles. Many of us spend our days thinking about life than actually living it.¬†We spend our days thinking about what we don’t have.¬†We are envy. We like to feel sorry for ourselves. We want this, we want that. In relationships we demand, we pick and we fight. Forgetting why we chose for this person to be in our life in the first place.¬†You wine and tell people how sucky your job is. Forgetting the benefits because if you got fired, you would¬†probably¬†have wished you had kept your mouth shut¬†because¬†it really wasn’t that bad at all. ¬†We’re in this bubble of me, me , me. Not thinking of others, not thinking how we can give back . Are you¬†guilty¬†of behaving this way? Trust me, you’re not alone.

What’s going on in your life that has you disappointed? Is it something that lies within you, or is it someone who is¬†causing¬†you to compromise who you are and what you want out of life? You have to be able to¬†identify¬†what the problem is and where it is coming from in order to take the¬†necessary¬† steps to change it. It can be one single thing or person. Or maybe even a whole bunch of things. Figure it out. Make a¬†conscious¬†effort in changing things. It does no good if you only go in this half way. Just because you figure out what the problem is and say it out loud doesn’t mean it solves anything. You have to take the extra steps even though it can be painful and ask a whole lot out of you. I means it’s your life. You can either choose to live it being truly happy or just pretend that you are truly happy. Maybe even sit there and make excuses why your life is the way it is. We are given the hands that we’re dealt with yes, but it’s how you respond to the things that happen to you that counts. You can control how to behave and respond to each and every situation.

“She took¬†tragedy¬†and built¬†strength¬†around her to go on,” a mother’s words when she found out her daughters tragic secret that she has been living with for 30 years.

We all have the potential of being truly happy. It will require CHANGE. Changing your way of thinking, changing your environment, changing some of your habits…most people don’t like change. It’s scary, uncomfortable. Do I think being truly happy is worth some uneasiness? For me, I say YES.

How about you?