Don’t be the friend…

Don’t be the friend who only texts when you’re bored.

Don’t be the friend who uses people only to fill a void.

Don’t be the friend who only answers the phone when you’re alone.

Don’t be the friend who drops everyone when there is someone new in your life.

Don’t be the friend who never shows up and gets offended when the invitation stops.

Don’t be the friend who makes excuses just because you’re soaked in your drama as a reason to flake out constantly – we all go through things.

Be the friend that shows up.

Be the friend you’d want to have in your corner.

Be the friend who isn’t around out of convenience but truly wants to be in their life.

Choose to keep dinner dates not just with your partner but also those you call when you need advice.

When we’re young and think we’re in love, we tend to take the ones who care for us the most for granted. We stop answering our phones. We ignore those texts. We make time for his/her friends and doing the same for our own becomes inconvenient.

The story always ends the same. We seem to need our friends when love has gone. I say this because I have personally experienced this throughout my life. With almost every friend I’ve had.

This is a FACT: Great friends are hard to come by. Even having one best friend is truly a gift. Someone who has your back no matter what. Someone who doesn’t treat you like a card in their back pocket but someone at the forefront of their life. Not that you have to be a top priority but still, a big priority.

You’d think those of us nearing our forties would have learned a thing or two about how rare it is to have long-lasting relationships. Unfortunately, I still have friends going in and out of the same cycles. And yes – that is their choice and their life. I realize my judging is only stunting my own growth. Even if it came from a good place. I had to ask myself, is keeping them around doing more harm than good? That my friends, is the million-dollar question.

This is my advice to the younger ME’s out there…

Love is great. Finding a life partner is something we all desire and should value and embrace. That doesn’t mean there is no longer room for those you’ve grown with and also love. Don’t confuse growing apart vs just being a bad friend. People change, go on different paths, and part ways with no animosity. While others are simply tired of being taken for granted.

Don’t be the friend who is newly single and can’t pick up the phone to call the one person who knows you better than you know yourself. And by chance, you call and they answer, you’re truly lucky because you really don’t deserve them. You may not be so blessed the next time.

So, what kind of friend are you? Honestly.

 

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